A Moment of You – Private First Dance
There’s no time to rest during a wedding. Between the pictures, the guests, the dinner, the cake, the speeches, the gifts, the bouquet, the hello’s, and the goodbye’s, every minute is planned out perfectly. With even the smallest details accounted for months beforehand, sometimes a wedding feels rehearsed, with no spontaneity. Obviously there needs to be structure to a wedding, a firm schedule that guides you effortlessly through your night. The problem isn’t the schedule; the problem is what the schedule lacks. It lacks a certain element, a certain dynamic, a certain moment. Your wedding day is the day that you and your best friend begin a journey together, the joining of two halves together. You’ve chosen to share this union with your closest family and friends, but throughout the whole night there is never a moment of just you.
When you first fell in love with your partner, there wasn’t anyone else around. When you first felt the warmth from their smile, when you realized that they were the one, when you knew you didn’t want to live without them, there was no crowd; it was just the two of you. While you are blessed to share this beautiful day with all the people you love, there needs to be a moment for just the two of you. At a recent wedding, I was lucky enough to experience a bride and groom’s “private dance”, a moment that took place away from their family and friends. Towards the end of the cocktail hour the newlywed couple snuck away from their guests and entered the ballroom. The groom escorted his new bride out onto the dance floor and the two shared in a dance together. They weren’t dancing for their coworkers, or their friends, or their family; they were dancing with each other.
As they slowly floated around the dance floor, it was easy to feel the bond that they shared. They spent an eternity together during that one dance, reliving all their past memories and looking forward to creating new ones. The music eventually came to an end, they shared a kiss and a long embrace. It was clear to see that this was just the beginning for them. That four minutes they spent on the dance floor was unlike anything else I have ever seen as a Private Event Host, it was a true moment. They didn’t stop to pose for pictures, or smile to their guests; they had their eyes looking deep into each others’ for the entire duration of the song. The rest of the night was filled with great energy, and I’d like to think it’s partially because of how it started, with the love shared during their private dance resonating in the room and inspiring all of their guests.
I’ve heard of there being opportunities for the bride and groom to spend time alone during their wedding day. Some weddings have a thirty minute time period after the ceremony but before the cocktail hour for the bride and groom to memorize the feeling of being married, and in some traditional Jewish weddings there is a “Yichud Room” where the bride and groom retire to for several minutes after their ceremony. I’ve even heard of recommendations to just sit at their sweetheart table and enjoy the first moments of their wedding together in seclusion. However, I have never had this idea applied to a dance. The intimacy they shared during their private dance is something that is often forgotten at a wedding. People forget that the reason they are getting married is because of how good things are when it’s just the two of them. They need only each other to feel happy, to smile, to fall in love. And they need only each other to dance.